Let’s face it, social media has changed life as we know it, and weddings are no exception. While some customs like chapel weddings, lace garters and even white wedding dresses are on the way out, there are still some traditions that are key for a classy modern wedding. So here are five top etiquette tips every millennial bride should know.
Gran before the Gram
The proposal, the ring, the emotions, it’s easy to get swept up in the moment and like us millennials do with most things, celebrate the event with our online friends. While a social media announcement (or hint) is always the most efficient and dramatic way of breaking the news, it’s certainly not the most personal. So before you get posting, snapping or gramming, make sure that the important family and friends hear the news first, face to face or by phone call. Your tech-clueless grandma will appreciate it, I promise.
Much like changing passports or bank statements, the updating of your Facebook relationship status and surname has become a common task for many newlyweds. However unlike legitimate documents, Facebook is a play-by-your-own-rules game, so whether you get around to this, weeks, or months later (or not at all) the choice is entirely yours. For some couples this is a big announcement, while others forget about it altogether.
We get it, you’re planning a wedding
Once the secret is out and you’ve set up your personal wedding hashtag (yes this is a thing), be sure not to get too enthusiastic about sharing every detail and drama. A picture of tasting wedding cakes? Sure! A lengthy rant about your mother in law, or detailed account of how much your dress costs? Maybe not. Remember that like most things, less is more.
Are thank you cards still a thing?
Short answer, yes. While an email or mass social media post does do the job, we all know that a handwritten note in the mailbox takes the cake. Whether you’re thanking them for a wedding gift, help at the wedding, or simply their presence on the day, a thankyou card is a simple way to show your appreciation to those who made the day a special one.
Do I have to…?
The list of traditions, rules and rites of passage for a wedding is long enough to make anyone’s head spin. The good news is that now; couples have more say than ever about what their wedding will look like. Meaning that most customs aren’t as essential to the ceremony as they were once considered. So if throwing the bouquet, wearing a white wedding dress or performing an intricately choreographed ‘first dance’ isn’t your style, then follow your gut and make the day one you’ll love!