You’ve got the ring and you’ve chosen a date. And now comes one of the first tasks on your wedding-to-do list: choosing your wedding party. Asking siblings, cousins or close friends to be your bridesmaids (or bridesmen) is a big decision, and you should take the opportunity to thank these special people for the role they’ve played in your life so far.
While a simple, heartfelt “will you be my bridesmaid?” is all you need, if you want to do something really special for your girls (or guys), then here are a few creative ideas:
Bridesmaid Survival Kit
Your bridesmaids are going to be helping you through every stage of your wedding planning. If you’re crafty, you could make each of them a “survival kit” to help them through the process. Each kit would be personal to each bridesmaid and could contain:
- A bottle of wine (to keep her sane)
- A handkerchief (for all the tears)
- Makeup samples (to help her shine on the big day)
- A stress ball or scented bath bomb (for relaxing after the big day)
- A bridesmaid’s contract (create something sweet and funny like this one)
- Photographs of your favourite memories (to show her why you chose her)
- Fabric swatches or pictures of potential dress choices (so she can help you decide)
Place all the elements inside a box decorated with card and scrapbooking letters. Create a lid that reads, “Will you be my bridesmaid?” Now you’re ready to present the boxes!
Secret Spy Message
Send your bridesmaids an anonymous letter, plain email or text with a spy message. You could get even more covert by creating a one-off email address or text account so they can’t trace the message back to you. Your spy message might say something like this:
Your mission, if you choose to accept it, is to accompany [insert your name] down the aisle as a bridesmaid on her wedding on [insert date] Code Level Red for Extremely Dangerous – you will encounter tantrums, cake sampling, and miles of taffeta and satin. Good luck. This message will self-destruct if left near an open flame.
Treat them to a Girl’s Day Out
Take all your bridesmaids for a lush day of pampering and treats. You could visit a spa, go out for lunch, or simply have a tea party or watch soppy movies at home. Then, when you’ve got all your best girls together, you could ask them all at once.
If your bridesmaids don’t usually hang out together, hosting a special day out for your girls gives them a chance to mingle and get to know each other. You can also get started immediately talking about dresses and the hen’s night. Fun!
If you don’t have much time on your hands but want to do something creative, you could make each bridesmaid a handmade card. There are literally thousands of DIY greeting card tutorials online (see these and these) and you could finish the card off by writing a cute bridesmaid poem inside (have a look at these!)
A handmade card is the perfect solution for asking bridesmaids who live out of town. After all, who doesn’t love receiving something in the mail from a far-away friend?
Say it with Cupcakes
What girl can say no to a personalised cupcake? Get a local bakery to whip up a unique treat and have one delivered to each bridesmaid with a note asking the big question.
How did you ask your bridesmaids? What DIY ideas will you create to honour your special women?